A quick Google search will tell you that there is only one precious gem not formed in the ground, but rather it is formed inside a living creature. The pearl – worn in jewelry as a sign of wealth or worn for good luck has a fascinating origin. What started as an intruder, an irritant is coated with layers and layers of a substance called Nacre until the pearl is formed. Why did I lead with this? Well – I would like to think the intruders and irritants in my life are there for a purpose and at the end of it I will walk away with a pearl. 

Do you have a someone that knows how to get under your skin; one that knows how to work your last nerve and irritate the Iyanla Vanzant blessing out of you? Or are you that someone that annoys everyone; gets on people’s nerves and ruins a good day? In any case I am sending you a virtual hug because you may need to talk to someone!

My experience in the army taught me that personality clashes are the catalyst that form a toxic environment if the situation is left unchecked. How you respond – not react – in this environmentis the key to walking away with your pearl. There is a blessing in every life lesson. I was reminded of this by a dear friend when she shared this poem with me.

Anything that angers you is teaching you forgiveness and compassion.

Anyone who abandons you is teaching you how to stand up on your own two feet.

Anything that angers you is teaching you forgiveness and compassion.

Anything that has power over you is teaching you how to take your power back.

Anything you hate is teaching you unconditional love.

Anything you fear is teaching you courage to overcome your fear.

Anything you can’t control is teaching you how to let go.

​Jackson Kiddard

What comes in your life and causes distress, chaos, disturbance and discomfort could really be there to teach you something. If you pay attention to how the Universe works, you don’t graduate to your next lesson until you learn from and successfully pass the test in the present lesson. I encourage you to limit how often you complain about that co-worker, or spouse, or job or whatever may be irritating you in the moment. Because there is a chance there is someone who would want to trade places with you. So if you find yourself complaining about your job – there is a woman or man out there who hasn’t been employed in a year and for everyday they are unemployed their self – worth shrinks just a tiny bit. When you want to complain about your kids – remember there is a woman out there who has been trying for years and she can’t conceive or bring a baby to full term. When you complain about the traffic and too many people live in this city – remember there are millions living in refugee camps with no idea if they will ever see their homes again.

It is easy to encourage from the comforts of a plush sofa with jazz instrumental as my background music. But I have lived, and I humbly acknowledge that you too have lived. And by living we have had to go through stuff. Just remember that the stuff you go through is to help mold you to become a better you. That intruder isn’t there to harm you, or even if it is there intention to do you harm just cover them in nacre. Your nacre is your positive self-talk, it is your intentional speech, it is your meditation, it is your grounding exercises, it is your healthy diet, it is connecting with your circle, it is that self-care, it is that honest raw conversation you must have with yourself or lover or friend. It will be uncomfortable, it will be unpleasant. But when it’s done, you walk away with a pearl!

Photo by Calvin Lupiya on Unsplash

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